Valerie's Belfair WA Real Estate Blog: Know when to hold them...... And know when to ................ What??

Know when to hold them...... And know when to ................ What??

Know when to Hold them........and Know when to ........   What?

Someone asked me the other day how my son, Sean, was doing in his new chiropractor business in Westport, WA. I was extremely happy and proud to tell them that not only has he been very successful with his business, but he is also in the process of buying his first home!!

They were very happy to hear that he is doing so well and said to me - "so where did you find him a house?"

I smiled and said "I didn't. I referred him to another realtor!"  They looked at me with wide eyes and amazement and the question "Aren't you a real estate agent? Why would you refer him to another agent?" they asked.

"Yes, yes I am and a very successful, knowledgeable and professional Realtor -  and that is one of the reasons I referred him to another agent."

What made me make this decision? Well for one,  he is not purchasing in my market area.  I felt and feel that it is in his best interests to work with a realtor who knows the area and the values and market  like the back of his hand in the area that my son is considering buying a home.

I also did not want our relationship to interfere with the process of making the best choices and decisions for him. 

Buying a home is an emotional decision for a Buyer but should also be looked at in a business manner when doing so. I did not want my opinions or wants as a "mom" to interfere with his decisions. Such as - I wanted him to buy a condo and he really wanted a single family house with a garage. Now maybe it was because the condo he is living in is on the ocean and I was soooooo looking forward to spending some time at the ocean!  Now that was definitely not in his best interest!

Even though he is my son, I wanted him to be represented by the best person possible and it would have been me IF I worked the market area is he in, but I am not. 

Oh,I have been following the transaction and looked at the paperwork and given a tip or two here and there (once a mom - always a mom and it IS my privilege as his mom), but it was also nice to say to him -

"You know what? That is a better question for your local agent!  I do not know the Westport market enough to give you solid good information and I also don't know their county rules and regulations either." 

It is always best to ask the local expert!

I always look out for the best interests of my clients, family, friends, relatives, loved ones and those in between!

 And in this case and any case that is out of my market area - I would prefer to refer them to the local Windermere expert or best local expert for the area if Windermere is not located there.

Now I get to sit back and watch my son grow and learn, with a different perspective rather than playing that MOM and Agent game......  knowing he is in very capable hands with his local Windermere expert. 

Know when to hold them and know when a referral is in their and your best interest!

If you have family, friends, or clients that are looking to buy or sell in my real estate market area of Mason County (Belfair, Allyn, Grapeview, South Shore and North Shore of Hood Canal), or Kitsap County (Bremerton, Port Orchard, Silverdale, or Manchester, give me a call or drop me a line.  I promise, they will have the best service possible just as I would want for my son!  


If you would like more information on Belfair, Allyn and LakeLand Village homes for sale or  Hood Canal and Puget Sound Waterfront Homes for Sale, drop me a line, give me a call, or stop on by.  You can also check out the many choices and prices on my website!


Whether you are buying or selling a home, don't put your goals off without talking to a local real estate expert with knowledge of homes for sale on Hood Canal, Southern Puget Sound as well as LakeLand Village, Allyn, Belfair and the surrounding area.

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Comment balloon 4 commentsValerie Spaulding • July 05 2010 05:26PM


Bravo Valerie!  It sounds to me that you are both a Great Mom and a Great Agent!

I commend your professionalism!

Posted by Harry Logan, Your Satisfaction is Guaranteed! (RE/MAX executives realty) almost 10 years ago

Thanks Harry!  I try to do my best at both!  Thanks for stopping in!

Posted by Valerie Spaulding, Allyn-Belfair-Hood Canal-Local Expertise! (Windermere Peninsula Properties~Allyn~Belfair~WA) almost 10 years ago

Smart move, Val.  I really would hate to represent my son on a sale or purchase.  This is not an area where you want the "other" realtor to know you are representing a close relative.  It makes negotiations that much harder.  You are a wise woman....

Posted by Suzanne McLaughlin, Sabinske & Associates, Realtor (Sabinske & Associates, Inc. (Albertville, St. Michael)) almost 10 years ago

Thanks Suzanne! It also relieved ALOT of stress when we had a "difference of opinions!"  to be able to tell him to ask his agent! 

Posted by Valerie Spaulding, Allyn-Belfair-Hood Canal-Local Expertise! (Windermere Peninsula Properties~Allyn~Belfair~WA) almost 10 years ago

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